A Woman Who Knows Her Value... (Part 1)

"A woman who knows her value knows that she has something incredibly valuable to give and something important to protect" -Nancy Houston

Where are we finding our value though?  I find it somewhat ironic that the world has us all trying to “find ourselves” and somehow in this search we are running to other people to tell us who we are and what we’re worth.  It’s exhausting and confusing, and it’s wrong. 

Connecting with the heart of God is how we find out identity and value.  The Bible says our value is intrinsic and immeasurable.  Our identity as children of God is unquestionable.  From birth, before really, we are loved greatly, beyond measure.  Our Father sacrificed His Son, that’s how much He loves us.  A King died for us, that’s how much we’re worth.  We have to stop looking to others and first seek His heart to better understand who we are in Him. 

If we as women can come to understand better who we are and what He has given us as unique reflections of Him, we could be spared so much heartbreak and loss.  As representations of God’s feminine side, we posses tenderness, nurturing and warmth.  There is an innate beauty in us, a gentle graciousness.  He has given us countless unique gifts, placed within us mystery, allure, softness and power.  We have so much to offer.  According to Him we have hearts full of love and kindness, and eyes that shine like stars.  These things are meant to be treasured and held sacred, first by us and then by others. 

When we miss the value of the gifts He has given us and underestimate our true worth, it becomes all too easy to give pieces of ourselves away, sometimes not even knowing we’re doing it.  There is a scary tendency to feel as if we need a man, this leads to desperation, and desperation leads to heartbreak.  He created us for relationship for sure, but there is such a push, both from within us and in our society to become quickly entangled, and quickly sexual.  Somehow sex has become a tool to get and keep a relationship. 

We were created for so much more than that though.  And sex was created for so much more than that too.  Sex is more than a physical experience, it is a communion of life.  As much as the world would like us to believe it, there is no such thing as “no strings attached” sex.  Women it seems pay a higher price for testing this theory.  We feel deeper, and loss and heartbreak lead us to a confused sense of self.  Grasping the truth about our value and identity is the surest way to break free of this harmful cycle.  We have to rise up and do our part to guard our hearts.  Giving ourselves away to men who don’t understand the immense value placed in us leaves less of us for the man who someday will.